What happens between sessions. Hi Reader I Something I've been sitting with for a while: the work doesn't actually happen on the day you train. It happens in the eleven days after, when nobody's watching and the plan meets your actual life. Most women don't need more information. They need something that holds them accountable between the sessions, without turning training into one more thing to manage on their own. That's the part that's usually missing. Not motivation. Not knowledge. A...
about 1 month ago • 1 min read
What actually happened while I was quiet. Hi Reader I have not sent a newsletter in a few weeks. If you noticed, you might have wondered what was going on. Nothing dramatic. No burnout, no big life event. I simply stopped producing for a while. Most of us treat quiet like it needs an explanation. Time away from output gets filed under lazy, behind, or recovering from something. Rarely does it get filed under working. Here is what actually happened. I wrote. Properly wrote, on the book, in the...
about 1 month ago • 1 min read
You already have the power. This teaches you when to release it. Hi Reader I want to tell you something that took me a long time to actually believe about myself, and that I now see in nearly every woman who walks into my studio. You already have the power. That was never the question. What changes isn't your capability. It's your capacity, day to day, sometimes hour to hour. Sleep, cycle phase, cognitive load, how much you've been holding for other people. None of that is fixed, and none of...
2 months ago • 2 min read
My Fitbit congratulated me on a good night's sleep. It was lying.. Hi Reader The moment I overslept by two hours last night. Restless night, no obvious reason on the surface; so I did what most of us do now and blamed my hormones. Then I opened my wearable app. Ten hours sleep. High quality. Congratulations!!!. I wanted to throw it across the room. The gap nobody talks about Most wearables infer sleep and recovery from movement and heart rate variability. Stillness reads as rest. But your...
3 months ago • 4 min read
Strength. Power. Energy. Hi Reader I want to try something different in this email, because of a conversation I keep having with myself about how women actually want to be spoken to. Nobody wants to be told they're tired, stressed, and in need of rest. You already know that about yourself. Being told again just makes you want to prove it wrong by pushing harder. I do it too. So instead, I want to start with what Active Shakti actually means. Not the vibe of the name. The translation....
3 months ago • 1 min read
My body wasn't failing. It was adapting to too much at once. Hi Reader A few weeks ago my stomach changed shape within days. Softer, fuller, sitting differently. My first thought wasn't curiosity. It was alarm. Something has gone wrong. I have let something slip. That reaction surprised me, because I know better than most what is actually happening underneath. But knowing the theory and living inside the body doing it are two different things. Here is what I had to remind myself. Rapid...
3 months ago • 1 min read
The Two-Hour Shift Hi Reader I am writing this later than I meant to. Bags packed for the beach, headache behind my eyes, ear defenders in on the train because everything feels too loud today. Last night I was at a garden party. Music, dancing, football chanting, a big open space full of strangers and friends of strangers. I watched the usual crowd of 40 and 50 year olds getting properly high and drunk around me. I don't do that anymore. But I was happy there. I stayed later than I normally...
3 months ago • 2 min read
You don't have a discipline problem. You have a starting problem. Hi Reader I was standing in my kitchen this week, dishes half done, laptop open on the counter, phone buzzing with three things I'd said yes to and now had to actually do. I know how to train. I know how to eat well. None of that was the issue. The issue was that I couldn't find the on switch. This is the part almost nobody talks about with ADHD, and it's the part I hear constantly from the women I coach, diagnosed or not. It...
4 months ago • 1 min read